Self-Growth & Relationship Skills | Grow With Kristina

One of my mentors, Connie Ragen Green, has just presented a thirty day Power Blogging Challenge. That means making a blog entry daily until Jan. 7 when the challenge ends.  Not an easy assignment when it falls right during the holidays.

Yet many of us accomplish the most when we have a challenge.  I know that it motivates me.  Consistency is something that I have struggled with.  After an initial overwhelm feeling  as I think about the next thirty days I shifted my attitude to seeing this as a welcome challenge.

In my work with individuals and couples I frequently give assignments.  I talk about how it takes 21 days to change a habit.  I have never found out how this was determined but I do know that doing something daily makes all the difference.

I am coaching a woman right now who wants to change her  habit of keeping quiet when she knows she needs to speak up.  She chose as her assignment  the task to bring a concern  up daily with her partner.   She shared as to  how she had learned to silence her voice as a child.  This silencing  happens primarily in close relationships because she uses her voice effectively professionally  She realized that she was still repeating a habit form childhood that she no longer needed.  Instead it was limiting her authenticity  in this relationship.

Now 14 days into her assignment she told me today that speaking up is getting easier and she likes how she feels when she does it.

Over the next thirty days I would welcome questions from my readers.  In addition to writing about self growth and strengthening relationships I will also share  tips for dealing with holiday stress.