When I say “Think Process” most people do not have a clue of what I am talking about. By process I mean learning to look at what goes on in between people. We are so used to taking a one dimensional look at what goes on with a person that we neglect to study what happens between people. Yet the clue to understanding couple relationships is in looking at the process between the two people.
Each person brings their own script into a relationship. Each has an idea of what they expect of marriage, what the role of a husband and a wife looks like, how to communicate with each other, what kind of life they want to create together. How they resolve these differences has to do with their process. For instance, if their process is that one person has to be right, then the other person has little choice but to give in.
My coaching and teaching focuses very much on helping people change the process that limits them into a process that strengthens both people and their relationship.
