It has been my experience that relationships periodically need an infusion of renewed attention. People need newness and pleasure because without it life can become rather routine. Frequently couples who have been together for many years find that their lives have settled into routine comfortableness but they have lost passion and excitement in the process. Usually one person initiates change and that action then affects the balance of the relationship.
I am a firm believer that when the internal voice says: “I want something more” it is important to listen. It could that it is time to develop new interests as an individual and/or it could be desiring more fun and closeness in the relationship.
These are healthy desires because we all grow when we stretch our minds and bodies. In reality is is necessary for optimum life satisfaction. Without challenging ourselves life becomes routine. I see the end of the year as being the optimum time to start thinking about what is good about your life and what do you want to change. This thinking has to be done on two levels if you are in a relationship. Ask what do I need to do personally so I can be happy and what do we need to do as a couple that will bring us closer and recharge our relationship.
