How well you come across is a skill worth developing. It is as important as what you are saying. Couples who are experiencing marital conflict 9 x out of 10 will say : we don’t communicate. Of course they communicate, it is how they communicate that causes the problem. What they really mean is that neither person feels heard and understood.
By paying attention to how well you come across you raise your self-awareness. Your tone of voice, your attitude, your pitch, your authenticity, your posture all are significant. If you want to be understood and taken seriously how you do it will make a big difference.
The act of caring how you come across means you are aware of how what you say is received by the other person. This awareness of the duality in communication is what leads to meaningful communication.
